He’s on a lake in New Hampshire with family and friends. I’m at the ocean on Fire Island, alone. One week: different settings, different lifestyles, different means of happiness.
For over forty years my husband Jim has spent the fifth week of July at a family camp run by the Boston YMCA. I’ve been his camp buddy since the first year we met and learned to love camp, maybe a pinch less than he did. I brought my daughter there with her family, and now my kids and grandkids are as enmeshed in the camp life and web of relationships as Jim’s family is.
I blogged ecstatically about last year’s camp experience, singing praises of our time together. I was aware change may be coming. Here’s an excerpt of what I wrote:
Getting sick and needing antibiotics is now part of my reality. I will follow medical advice, as I did last year, and hold off making any return decision for now. But if I did sing my last auld lang syne to Sandy in the fifth week of summer, 2016… Wow, was that a wonderful week I had.
This year I couldn’t go. I may have sung my last Auld Lang Syne. My lungs became infected after camp last year – again. I began coughing heavily and feeling flu-ish. I saw a pulmonologist who in winter of this year diagnosed me with MAC, a tree-and-bud cell pattern in my lungs that reacts to bacteria, mold and other goodies that fill my lungs with mucus. Yes, it’s unpleasant, not fatal, and the cure is being on three antibiotics for one year. I do not want to do this treatment. So I stayed home where I can breathe ocean air and hopefully keep my lungs clear.
I miss Jim; I miss seeing Michael, Camila, Danielle, Jack and all the grandkids enjoying themselves and deepening their friendships; I miss the campers, the friendliest, warmest people I’ve ever met. I miss the camp and the crafts shack where I made collages alongside my creative friends and son-in-law.
Most of all, I miss feeling healthy enough to go where I want to go and do what I want to do. But I am not a high–risk taker. My health matters. I accept the vulnerability of my sextysomething age, and I’d rather dance at another party than make this camp week my last stand.
Boo-hoo.😂
Camp ends on Saturday. Then I’ll miss my week-long freedom.
What has curtailed you? Have you changed or ended a long-loved activity? Why?